How to Create a Seating Chart with Minimal Injury

Picture it: Sicily 1942, a soon-to-be married sap sits in front of an oversized floorplan of a his reception space with small circles spattered throughout. He sits with a pile of pins in one hand, and a whiskey on the rocks in the other. You start off feeling brave but soon your exasperation becomes evident as you watch your fiance move one person after another with such fierceness your head begins to spin. The next thing you know a pin of epic proportion is seen flying through the air just before it pierces your hand! Well we do not want to hear of anyone suffering an unintentional acupuncture nightmare, so let’s set some ground rules that will make planning your seating chart a fun experience for you, and most importantly set your guests up to have an amazing time at your wedding.

Best Gay Wedding Blog EverThis first one is the MOST important: Plan your seating chart with your guests in mind! I know you want to do everything according to what your Aunt Pam says was at every wedding she’s been to, but put that aside for a minute. Think about your friends an

d family carefully, and decide who they should be surrounded with in order to have a great time. Just because you have two uncles does not mean they have to sit at the same table; if your boo has a coworker that you know would have your uncle is stitches, be the loving matchmaker and put those two together! By bringing the right mix of personalities together at your tables, you’ll ensure that everyone is having a great time throughout your wedding.

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Also, start with the obvious and work backwards. Most seating charts will begin with your wedding party, so get that settled first before moving on to other tables. If you have certain friends or family that need to be sitting in a particular location, get those in place next. And then consider the rest of your floorplan. If you are having a bar, think about putting those who won’t be drinking away from that area, and add some convenience for those spending most of their time ordering drinks anyways. Think about areas with high traffic, like the dance floor, and consider having guests who may need a little more time to move around a haven away from too many passing guests.

Finally, leave some breathing room for last minute changes. We all know that people can be flakes, and you have to account for some last minute additions from missing RSVPs. Fight the urge to just have an ‘overflow’ table: You’ll end up with an awkward table with people who may not enjoy sitting together… and you for sure don’t want a table full of people glaring at you from the back of the room. Instead, try and leave a couple spots open throughout the space for that last minute shuffling. That way, you can ensure that family and friends can be placed in an area that will be more fun for everyone. And if there happens to be extra space at a few tables, those guests will certainly appreciate having space to stretch out after a full meal and hard dancing!

Whether you find it nostalgic to pull out the pinboard, or use a speadsheet to plan out your seating chart, keeping your purpose in mind will help you to create an experience for your guests that will be fun and memorable.

How to Put On a Fabulous Gay Wedding

Hi there, my name is Kristen-Alexzander Griffith. I am a twenty-something year old man living in NYC. Alright, alright I am 28 years old, there I said it. Now that we have gotten the ugly truth out of the way we can get to the real dirt! Soooo…I’m getting married…to a man!!! I know, I know, you are so excited for me and happy that I have found love in this city of strangers. Or is that Chicago. Well, either way I am excited too!!! But honestly, we all know that weddings can be stressful when trying to plan them ourselves. They can be even more stressful when you are a gay man trying to plan a wedding. While I am able to live up to most of the stereotypes, (you know… good looking, well groomed, well organized, well versed and oh, did I mention good looking?) I am clueless when it comes to a gay wedding. I was so shocked when I put in a simple google search for “gay weddings” and came up with a handful of crappy listings as results. It’s like all of these heterosexual establishments the day they approved gay marriage in New York decided to get together and put a gay flag banner on their website just to draw in an untapped market. Booooo/Hissss! One website is for a business based in JERSEY, hello!! We can’t cross state lines yet sister, give me a break!!

The truth is, there was and still is very little information about what colors work, where to have the damn thing and most of all how to make a wedding cake masculine while still fulfilling every gay groom’s dream. Hey since we are gay grooms why don’t I go ahead and call us “ga-rooms.” Huh, cute? I hate it! Nope, I’m going back to grooms. I guess that is part of my initial frustration, how do you find your identity as a gay couple about to tie the knot without history to show you the way. It’s kind of exciting to be part of a generation that will usher in new traditions and practices when it comes to weddings. Oh, and for all you haters out there – gay men and women like things that are traditional too. It’s the things that are traditional and UGLY that we have no tolerance for. That you can keep for yourself. Trust me when I tell you, you are only doing you and your wedding party a disservice when you decide to wear white, knowing good and well they used 3 yards of fabric just for the waist line; and you sir, in the cummerbund, shame on you sir, no man should be caught dead in the same thing pimply-faced boys wear to junior prom! Shame!! But I digress…

I thought it was time to hear stories and advice straight from the horse’s mouth, that horse being your’s truly!! So over the next, I dunno, year or so you and I will go on a journey. A journey to the big day: our wedding. I will share with you all the juicy experiences as my lovely groom and I try to figure out how the hell we are going to pull of a fabulous wedding on a budget. I am sure this experience will be full of hilarious stories, tears of joy, tragic tuxedos and terrible wedding cake! But best believe, by the time we are done you and your future Mr. or Mrs. will certainly know one thing: What not to do when planning your wedding!