Ask Kristen! – A Small Affair

26
Jan 2014

Bob from Ashland, Oregon asks: My partner and I are planning to get married in New York City. We want a simple ceremony after getting our license at the City Clerk’s office. We will be having two couples and close family members all from California in attendance. Since we are all from out of state I’m having some difficulty getting things arranged. Again we would like a simple but meaningful ceremony. Can you help us?

First, congratulations on your upcoming wedding! We hear from lots of couples who opt to keep things small and simple, and the beauty of this plan is that you will get to celebrate the happiest day of your life with just your closest friends and family (and not your mumbling Uncle Wolfgang that you HAD to invite to round out the numbers!)

Not to brag, but the fact that you are coming to NYC for your wedding already makes it a meaningful special soiree. NYC is the best city on earth, who wouldn’t want to get married here! But I digress…

In the spirit of keeping things simple, the first thing you should decide is what your priorities are… Take a minute to think of your dream wedding. What was the most important element to you? Was it the vows, the location, the food, the music, the wardrobe, the pictures, the flowers…? Choose one or two elements to focus your attention and money on, and keep the rest simple.

Above all, every wedding, no matter the size, is fueled by the love of the couple and the love of the people surrounding them. Invite your guests to be an active part in this monumental occasion by asking them to help create a heartfelt guest book, participate in a unity candle ceremony, or provide their best wishes through toasts in the celebration to follow your ceremony. But be sure to give a strict time limit on toasts. Anything longer than three minutes runs the risk of becoming a Shakespearean soliloquy…ain’t nobody got time for that!

Simple doesn’t have to mean meaningless it just means fuss free. And let’s be honest, fuss free is fabulous!


How to Create a Seating Chart with Minimal Injury

3
Jan 2014

Picture it: Sicily 1942, a soon-to-be married sap sits in front of an oversized floorplan of a his reception space with small circles spattered throughout. He sits with a pile of pins in one hand, and a whiskey on the rocks in the other. You start off feeling brave but soon your exasperation becomes evident as you watch your fiance move one person after another with such fierceness your head begins to spin. The next thing you know a pin of epic proportion is seen flying through the air just before it pierces your hand! Well we do not want to hear of anyone suffering an unintentional acupuncture nightmare, so let’s set some ground rules that will make planning your seating chart a fun experience for you, and most importantly set your guests up to have an amazing time at your wedding.

Best Gay Wedding Blog EverThis first one is the MOST important: Plan your seating chart with your guests in mind! I know you want to do everything according to what your Aunt Pam says was at every wedding she’s been to, but put that aside for a minute. Think about your friends an

d family carefully, and decide who they should be surrounded with in order to have a great time. Just because you have two uncles does not mean they have to sit at the same table; if your boo has a coworker that you know would have your uncle is stitches, be the loving matchmaker and put those two together! By bringing the right mix of personalities together at your tables, you’ll ensure that everyone is having a great time throughout your wedding.

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Also, start with the obvious and work backwards. Most seating charts will begin with your wedding party, so get that settled first before moving on to other tables. If you have certain friends or family that need to be sitting in a particular location, get those in place next. And then consider the rest of your floorplan. If you are having a bar, think about putting those who won’t be drinking away from that area, and add some convenience for those spending most of their time ordering drinks anyways. Think about areas with high traffic, like the dance floor, and consider having guests who may need a little more time to move around a haven away from too many passing guests.

Finally, leave some breathing room for last minute changes. We all know that people can be flakes, and you have to account for some last minute additions from missing RSVPs. Fight the urge to just have an ‘overflow’ table: You’ll end up with an awkward table with people who may not enjoy sitting together… and you for sure don’t want a table full of people glaring at you from the back of the room. Instead, try and leave a couple spots open throughout the space for that last minute shuffling. That way, you can ensure that family and friends can be placed in an area that will be more fun for everyone. And if there happens to be extra space at a few tables, those guests will certainly appreciate having space to stretch out after a full meal and hard dancing!

Whether you find it nostalgic to pull out the pinboard, or use a speadsheet to plan out your seating chart, keeping your purpose in mind will help you to create an experience for your guests that will be fun and memorable.