How to Add Drama with Lighting


When it comes to wedding decor, most people will first think about colors, linens, flowers, and other important elements. However, there is one element to decor that many may not think about, and yet can prove to be the element that can have the biggest effect on a space… and no, the answer is not whether the drapes match the carpet! The correct answer is: lighting! You want your wedding to be visually appealing, and light is the only way you’re actually going to see any of the other beautiful elements in place (unless you’re having a reception completely in pitch black… and if so, send us an invite because that sounds crazy!). Here are some things to keep in mind when considering options for lighting:

Best Gay Wedding Blog EverUse mood lighting to create a luxurious effect. Your space should already have built-in lighting that will allow the space to function (so people can actually see what they are doing). Your job is to add to the space with additional lighting. Start with the architecture in the space. What can you draw attention to with light? Look at walls with different textures, the window surroundings, or columns. Uplighting can add drama to these elements, or purposefully-directed overhead lighting can draw focus to the best elements in your space. If your events are during the day, take advantage of natural lighting where you can, but look for any areas that may be hidden or lost in the ambient lighting. Find a way to add that drama.

Best Gay Wedding Blog EverHighlight focus areas with light. You want your guests’ attention towards all of the details and not your brother’s unibrow. So ditch the florescent lighting and get creative. Here are a couple great lighting ideas: Flank your ceremony location with lighting to add drama to photos and add visual appeal to your vows. If your cake or dessert table is a masterpiece, make sure it’s lit like art in a gallery. Or if you want your sweetheart table to be the center of the action, make sure that’s apparent with special lighting that draws the eye to you throughout the evening.

Choose your colors carefully. Imagine for a minute that you are highlighting a gorgeous navy blue in your wedding decor. If a wash of blue lighting is used in your space, the color will actually be lost, as a blue light will effectively black-out your blue elements making everything too dark. Instead, be sure that the color of lighting will complement and bring out the colors of your decor. That’s not to say that you can’t use the same colors in lighting, but a better option is to incorporate blue uplighting around the perimeter for effect and use soft ivory pinspot lighting on the table. This will insure that the navy blue is apparent in your design while not losing the details. Speaking of lost details, this reminds me of that time I got carried away with a tweezer. Talk about details getting lost – tell that to what’s left of my eyebrows. Yikes! But I digress…

Best Gay Wedding Blog EverNow think carefully before you decide to do lighting on your own. If you are confident in your skills, you can find companies that will rent you equipment. However, just like a bad high school production of Grease, poor lighting can make Sandy look fat or worse detract from your event. So it’s worth looking at professional lighting packages. Often, lighting is a part of a package provided by your DJ, so ask for photos and make sure everything is cohesive.


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Wedding Planner: Local or Destination?
Diana from Saginaw asks: When you get married in a different city/state than the one you live in, do you hire a wedding planner in the city you live in or the city you’re getting married in?

Planning a wedding in another city can really be a challenge for even the most organized bride or groom. In your case, I would most definitely hire a wedding planner in the city where the actual wedding is going to take place. Not only can a local wedding planner use their connections find vendors like florists, photographers and caterers to make your special day perfect, but a local wedding planner can also help you out in a pinch… like telling you where to get a flask that will fit in your back pocket for when your family starts driving you nuts at the rehearsal dinner, 0r where to quickly locate a beauty supply store when your flat iron looks too much like a weapon of mass destruction to make it through airport security. Whatever the reason, go local. Finally, a long distance relationship worth the hassle.

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How to Dress Your Wedding Party


If you are anything like me the last thing you want to think about when it comes to your wedding is, how the hell am I going to make all the bridesmaids and groomsmen happy when it comes time to chose outfits. If your lamentations have turned into downright nightmares, trust me, you are not alone. Although…If your nightmares consist of running for your life through a foggy maze from an enraged and drunk Lady Gaga holding a tuxedo made only out of honey-cured ham, we should talk, because I had that exact same dream last night!!! Weeeeeeird! If you didn’t have that dream, read on. I have a couple of tips that will make choosing outfits for you wedding party a breeze.

1. Consider style. Planning a memorable wedding is a detail oriented task. Start by considering how your wedding party will contribute to the over all design of the wedding. Remember, your friends are there to stand up for you and for your love. So why not werk it to your advantage! I don’t see why they cant up stand up for your love AND look like gorgeously attired statues at the same time. That means, if your wedding is modern, keep the clothes tailored, clean, and interesting. If your wedding is formal, drape the girls in gorgeous floor length gowns that tell your guests this wedding means business. If your wedding is themed and has been inspired by the 1970’s dress your boys in richly hued velvet tuxedos complete with patent leather shoes. But opt for a tailored slim fitting jacket and pant over the not-so-flattering bell-bottom. This conveys the theme while remaining modern and fashionable.

2. Consider Cost: I have seen wedding party dresses that cost anywhere from $180 to $3,000. You know what happened when I saw that $3,000 dress? First, I passed out. Second, I got up. Third, I wondered how the hell I ended up on the ground in the first place. And then it hit me like the hardwood floor I was just laying on! I hadn’t set a budget. Big Mistake. Making a budget and sticking to it helps to avoid unfortunate encounters with gorgeous pink Oscar de la Renta gowns. So, if your limit is $300, don’t even entertain dresses
above that price point.

3. Consider Body Type: If your wedding party has a variety of body-types (like most weddings do), consider choosing an outfit that will be flattering on mostly anyone. If you have any “plus-size” girls or boys, try fitting them first. Chances are that if that person is happy, the rest will be as well. Fit is the most important element, and if you get the fit right, you’re golden!!

Follow these three simple steps and you will be on your way to having a stress-free, fun-filled day out with your friends shopping. Don’t follow these rules and you just might end up running down street from an intoxicated Gaga! Nah, I’m just kidding. Gaga is on tour, I checked!